Ellen Langer

I have a different view from how I think most people regard the playing of computer games. They remind me of those who want to close casinos because of the money and time they think people waste. It is as if they think that closing the casino will lead these people to healthier activities—perhaps libraries and concerts. I very much doubt it.

I think that if people are given alternatives that are exciting and that lead them to feel good about themselves, they will gravitate to them. How is this related to computer games? People usually prefer spending their time in ways that make them feel challenged, competent and strong. If our friends, children, spouses prefer their iPhones to us, the answer, in my view is not to abolish the use of the gadget in our presence. It is for us to make the potential interaction more interesting and affirming. Indeed, I think that the problem is not the “addicted gamer.” If given the choice to have an intimate, authentic warm loving interaction or play Angry Birds, it’s hard for me to imagine people choosing the game. We have learned to settle for unlived lives, so this alternative doesn’t even occur to us. An interactive mindful alternative might be just the thing we need.

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Kristen R. Anna · Jul 31, 06:58 PM

Hi Ellen — here is a great Ted talk too by game designer Jane McGonigal on this subject offering a view I think you’ll like: http://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life.html?source=facebook#.UBg-LlYSVkF.facebook

Lorenn Walker · Aug 5, 08:12 AM

We are often faced with choices where we understand the reward and effort of a number of options yet are reluctant or incapable of pursuing the best one. Procrastination is a prime example: we know it is best to fix cupboard, but put it off and invariably regret it. I know as a child I might have been stuck on a computer game and certainly not wished to go out for a walk, yet when somewhat compelled to do so I, naturally, enjoyed it feeling relieved to be away from the computer. Needless to say I’d often made the poorer choice to continue playing the game rather than engage in many far more rewarding activities. It is hard to imagine that many people will reflect on the hours they didn’t spend watching tv or playing computer games during their life – this would surely suggest people felt there were better alternatives available to progress their lives.

We have many minds with different priorities. People, generally, for example, don’t choose to be obese in some explicit sense; they do so as a bi-product of other choices (from other states of mind) to feel better. The short-term feel good choices they make drive them to an obese state and subsequently keep them in that state – the state they would choose to be in requires many (or at least it seems that way) short-term feel-bad decisions.

What people free from addiction would suggest they’d wished they’d spent the last few months addicted, in particular, where abstinence is forced upon them?

In general I would say that we are rarely in obedience of what we know and what we don’t know to be good for us, we are biased towards short-term gains. Putting down angry birds will almost invariably lead to a drop in some measure of enjoyment, just like starting to do the washing up; but of course the gain is longer term.

I believe it is unfair to suggest that if someone is frequently detached/distracted from us it is because we are not offering a better alternative – addictions have the tendency to corrupt and silence values. Very few things can offer or overcome the short term hit of an addiction – given we get a dopamine hit when we receive a text message its understandably tough to drag or be dragged away from connected world.

Choice as a consumer is a paradox as Barry Shwartz has shown; human beings make bad decisions and as such there are surely many choices in life that it is best not to have been made available to us or we have been lucky to avoid.

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Steve Willis · Dec 4, 11:46 AM

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Siegfried Brockert · Feb 20, 12:11 PM